Friday, January 1, 2010


On Wednesday, DH and I will go to the Fetal Medicine doc for our very first ultrasound. I am terrified. This whole experience has felt like a dream, surreal and thrilling on one hand, but frightening on the other because I'm afraid that one of these days I'm going to "wake up" to realize it hasn't been real. After spending time with some loved ones, it has become very clear to me just how trying it is to be a parent, and how exhausting. This last week, it has hit me that having a baby changes EVERYTHING, and that things between DH and I will never be the same again. I'm ashamed to admit it, but that has inspired some pangs of fear in me. I'm NOT at all sad that we're having a baby by any means. It's just that the unknown is scary. I wonder how well we'll communicate, how we'll handle the inevitable discipline situations, and handle the extra work and responsibility around the house and with the baby. But, let me state that I am really happy with the fact that things will never be the same. I've seen DH interact with some of our younger family members lately and I've just about busted at the seams because it is just so darn CUTE! I can only imagine and can't wait to see him interact with our child, hold our child. God willing, of course. Two of my very good friends are also pregnant, one due in June and the other due in July; I'm due in August. I don't know what I'll do or how I'll feel if something goes wrong with this pregnancy, and there are my two good friends, with brand new babies when I should have one too. See how my mind works? My mom keeps telling me I need to have positive expectations, and to be positive. I agree with her, but I'm also scared to get my hopes up too much. I just don't know how to balance my hopes with the reality that something bad could happen with this pregnancy. For now, I'm trying not to think about it too much, but to focus on other things. I keep reminding myself that there's nothing I can do about this except pray, because worrying does nothing positive at all. I am also trying to remind myself that God has a plan for us and that I just need to have faith in His plan. Please pray for us, friends, as we prepare to see the doctor on Wednesday.
Have a very Happy New Year.


  1. Good luck! This is very exciting... you sound EXACTLY how I felt when we went through the same thing a year ago. On Jan. 8th last year is when I found out I was pregnant. :) Your mom is right, though... stay positive. And, go ahead... let your hopes get up!!! You SHOULD be happy. :)

  2. I'm due in August too, and I'm having similar fears! My husband and I planned this baby, and we are thrilled that I got pregnant so quickly, but sometimes....yikes! We're used to it just being us, doing whatever we selfishly want! So, anyway. Hope the u/s goes first isn't until 18 weeks.